I am getting married next year and having a church (C of E) wedding as its what my fiance really wants.

I’m not a christian but have looked into my faith a lot and haven’t decided what I believe. I’ve been looking into it for many years and so don’t think I will have made a decision by next year.

I don’t mind a religious ceremony but feel really uncomfortable and hypocrytical about standing up in front of family and friends, repeating vows with direct reference to God, i.e. “In accordance to God’s holy law”.

Are there any vows where this does not take place? If not, is it likely that I will be able to omit that part?

I don’t want to talk to my vicar about it yet, especially if it might cause offence or any awkwardness, and the current vicar will be retired by the time we wed anyway, and he doesn’t know who his replacement will be.

Tamsyn